The Chronicles of Gene

We've all been there at one time or another, you've gotten yourself into a desirable situation, everything is firing on all cylinders but yet somehow you find yourself dropping the ball. It's at this point the little red guy on your shoulder yells "WELL FUCK!" and the little white guy is looking at the red one saying "He's got a point jackass WTF!".

I have a friend who is a master at dropping the ball, seriously the boy has made it into an art and it is something to watch. Don't worry I have a wonderful example and it starts on a dark and stormy.... wait wrong story.

So the night starts of at my friends place, lets call him "Sean" for the sake of the story, me and my room mate arrive with X men 2 in hand ready to play some Xbox before heading out for a night of dancing and drinking at the bar. All is going according to schedule, we're all geeked out and decided it's time to head to the bar. We roll in as usual, me looking around seeing what's happening, my room mate find some flaw on some beautiful woman.... don't ask me I think he has issues, and Sean heading to the bar to grab the first round of drinks.

Me and Sean proceed to scope out the talent of the night, lets face it there was a few targets for my single friends to approach if need be. So Sean and I hit the floor and before long some girls have joined us as usual commenting on our dancing skills. I bust out some jokes and they laugh, Sean flirts and they blush, it's all good. Night goes on, Sean notices a young lady he'd like to get to know ... if you know what I mean... giddy, anyways we dance our way towards their general directions. Next thing you know this girl and her friends are in our group dancing and smile.

Now you're probably asking yourself, "Self do you think Sean or the room mate talked to any of these girls?", the easy answer is two parts A) My room mate wouldn't start a conversation cause it goes strictly against the no effort policy B) Sean won't talk to her cause he's interested. So we continue dancing, I walk off to get some water and the boys soon follow. As I look back I can see one of the girls stopping Sean, she was giving him the typical "You're hot and good dancer you might be good enough..." speech, he quickly spins it into a golden opprunity to meet the girl he's interested in. Things are looking up at this point, it might be a ball dropping free night.... I said might. Sean does his thing and then makes his mistake "Save me a dance for later" girl "Ok" :D. As the "A Squad" congregates, it's the name we've given our group, we discuss what just happened and right on and figure out now would be a good time to get back out there, well guess what... that's right girl and her friends gone, A Squad is left empty handed... at least for right now.

Now take a second and review his mistake can you see where it is? No... well then chances are you've done it too. He has an in, has the girl smiling and then walks away.... with hardly any repour made and most importantly no dance. What he should've done is taken her to the dance floor and danced a few songs with her, flirt it up and then tell her he needs to catch up with his friends but would really like to continue this conversation and score her email or digits to have some stimulating conversation over a cup of something warm.

What was going through his head you wonder... well stop wondering cause it's been through yours more times then you care to remember also. Once again too much importance was put on this one girl, which in turn placed unneeded pressure and doubt which in turn clouded the judgement and the relaxed feeling. Now I know Sean and others might read this and think I'm dogging on my boy... well hell that's what friends do hehehe... but also want to point out that no matter the situation always go in not expecting a damn thing, trust me it's amazing the results. If it helps work with things like "You're going to make a great friend" or "This is the start of a beautiful friendship" it relays that your not going to cling on the girl and also keeps you relaxed cause that's all you're looking for.... but secretly we know the truth ;)

Anyways happy hunting and I know Sean will do even more amazing next time as I've seen him do numerous times in the past!